I don’t know what your experience is, but something I frequently notice lately, is that I am very often standing out as the only optimist in a given round.
I mean, not always, and certainly not within my close friends, who are a great bunch of people with very positive mind-sets. But often when I am at a party, business occasion or – worst – wherever in that toilet room called internet, I find myself surrounded by people who are all more or less of the opinion that the world is doomed, all is going down, etc.
People whine about our politicians (while themselves being too lazy to engage in politics), they whine about refugees (while themselves hoarding piles of money they will never be able to spend), they whine about Germany getting too much foreign influence (while themselves having no kids – do they expect this fertile piece of earth staying empty forever?), they whine about Greece costing our money (while sipping their champaign or pushing buttons on their brand new Apple computer), etc. pp.
As I like to oppose this view, I very often get accused “Gutmensch” (negative word for a positive person), “naive“, “dreamer” etc. 🙂
This is a pile of crap!
All this apocalyptic stuff is not only very boring to listen to for outsiders, it is also unhealthy to your own mind if you worry too much about stuff that (a) you cannot change (b) you are too lazy to DO something about and (c) did not materialize and thus is only a product of imagination at this point of time.
My theory why people love to whine and complain is like this:
- Some are lazy egoistic bastards, who do not want to really make the world a better place if it costs them any effort or money. Thus they complain about everything being messed up anyway giving them a perfect excuse to stay passive.
- Some are un-imaginative people, who have too little ideas what to spend their time on, so they spend it on complaining.
- Some lack self-esteem and any basic idea of “meaning of life” and they slowly sense that something is missing. They circumvent that by saying: “Doesn’t matter, all is going down anyway“.
- Some lack social interaction and positive feedback (maybe because they give so little of it themselves), and thus really see the world as a grim place.
- Some are simply getting old, and thus lose their ability to adapt to a world that is ever-changing (and was ever-changing, and will be ever changing). Or they don’t have kids, so see no need in caring for tomorrow.
- Some people somehow feel that they messed up their lives and now want to find somebody outside to blame.
- Some people lack attention and want to get if by screaming “FIRE!“.
Somehow, this whining mechanism seems to be built in deeply into people.
Throughout the centuries, you can find dozens of examples of apocalyptic scenarios that fascinated people at their times.
I have a little list somewhere myself where I from time to time note the “current crisis” and “actual reasons why the world will go down” and do a reality check a few years later.
Just from my mind, among many others, the following topics are on that list:
- AIDS (that was when I started the list 😉 )
- Dying woods (big issue in the late 80s)
- Ozone hole
- Peak oil (no oil will be left around 2010, total breakdown of economy to follow. Today we swim in oil)
- Devastating food shortage and hunger (in fact hunger is at record low today, compared to the decades before)
- Y2K error (atomic rockets to start automatically due to an IT error at 1.1.2000)
- Ebola I. (early 2000s)
- Finanical Crisis
- Ebola II (last year)
- Energy revolution (in Germany, atomic reactors get abandoned for renewable energy. The whiners said multiple brown-outs will follow. I have seen not a single one since four years)
- War with Russia over Ukraine (one year ago, no big deal anymore)
- Greece and Euro crisis (half a year ago, no one gives a f*** anymore)
- Refugees (the newest hype, at least in Germany)
Number of the above topics that in fact did make the world go down or did put a catastrophe on us?
I don’t know if this is a “German Angst” thing, but it’s funny, isn’t it?
While many whiners always argue very convincing and prompt millions of “facts” and call me and others the “dreamers“, actual evidence is on the dreamer’s side!!
Think about it if you next time are tempted to start whining and complaining.
Because it is not good for you.
Don’t take me wrong, I have no problem with a little bit of complaining here and there. This is normal social behaviour and can even provide some social glue (we are the good ones, all outsiders are idiots). But it does get dangerous if you dig too much into your whining, start to feel like a victim etc. And that is what many people unfortunately do.
In the long run, there is only one result of too much whining: Bitterness.
Not a nice thing.
You should avoid that at all costs!